Showing posts from November, 2017

Living in the Gray – You Might Have Depression and Not Know It

It’s the holidays. Everyone around me is buzzing with excitement and all I want to do is crawl into a hole and hide for the next 40 days. My anxiety is so high I can smell colors and taste sound.
I have been studying the field of psychology for almost a decade now. During that time I have watched the availability of information to the public grow and change. However, many mental disorders still remain a mystery to most people. The reason for that is we do a lot of educating about the “symptoms” of different disorders but we don’t do a good job of telling the story of what it’s like to actually live with a mental disorder. It’s time to share.
WebMD lists the symptoms of clinical depression as the following (paraphrased): fatigue, feelings of worthlessness or guilt, difficulty concentrating, difficulty remembering things, insomnia, irritability, restlessness, loss of interest in things once found enjoyable, unexplainable aches and pains, feelings of sadness, emptiness or hopelessness, per…

5 Signs You’re in An Abusive Relationship and Don’t Know It

I have been speaking with survivors of domestic violence for a few years now. Often people will say to me, “My situation wasn’t as bad as yours” and they would hang their head in shame. I was shocked. When I inquired further, the most common answer I would get is “my partner never hit me”. This enrages me because I know that we, as a society, have created a culture where abuse is only “valid” if it is physical. Yet psychological research shows that ANY kind of abuse; emotional, psychological, verbal, or financial, all have the same effect on the victim. All abuse causes trauma. Trauma does not need to be scored on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the worst. Trauma stories do not need to be compared to others so that a survivor feels that their story isn’t worthy because “it wasn’t as bad”. Trauma is trauma. A wound is a wound. And if it isn’t cared for properly it will never heal right.

I am writing this for you. If you clicked on my blog something inside you is fearful you may be liv…